For therapists, coaches & clergy

The diagnostic layer couples work has never had

A structured pre-session assessment in your language — so you walk into session one already knowing where the marriage is strong, where it isn't, and which framework to reach for.

The first few sessions are usually spent just getting oriented. Each partner tells a different story. You're triangulating, reading between the lines, building a picture while managing the room.

What if you had that picture before they walked in?

What you get

Both perspectives, side by side

Each partner answers the same 16 domains independently — no cross-contamination, no performing for each other. You see the contrast before the first word is spoken.

Empathy gaps surfaced automatically

The assessment detects where partners misread each other — awareness gaps, impact gaps, attribution gaps, ownership gaps. Patterns like “living in different marriages” or “blind spot with deflection” are flagged before you ask.

Reports in clinical language

Output mapped directly to the frameworks you already use — attachment styles, the Four Horsemen, sentiment override, Perel's otherness, Armstrong's currencies, Glass's windows and walls, differentiation. No translating from a consumer quiz into something usable.

AI that listens — without bias

Each domain combines multiple choice questions with long-form response. After each one, the AI hands the person a summary read against the frameworks; they revise it as many rounds as it takes until it's right. Every new summary picks up everything completed so far, so patterns surface across domains. By the time you read the report, every line has been validated by the person who gave it.

A measurable baseline, not a one-shot

Couples take it quarterly. You see what changed, what didn't, and which interventions are landing. Growth becomes visible — to them, and to you.

Grounded in the frameworks you already use

The thinkers and theories that actually move couples — applied systematically rather than referenced in passing.

Gottman MethodAttachment TheoryDifferentiation (Schnarch)Otherness (Perel)Currencies (Armstrong)Windows & Walls (Glass)Four HorsemenSound Relationship HouseSliding Door MomentsEmotional Bank AccountBids for ConnectionRepair Attempts

How it works in practice

1

Refer your couple

Send them a link. Each partner takes the assessment independently, on their own time.

2

Receive the report

A structured, side-by-side comparison across 16 domains with empathy gaps and pattern detection — shared with you directly inside the app.

3

Start at session one

Months of intake and guesswork become a conversation that opens with the work that actually matters.

The Ratio is built for any practitioner who works with couples — marriage and family therapists, relationship coaches, pastoral counselors, clergy, and discernment counselors.

It works just as well for couples in crisis as it does for couples doing maintenance work. The diagnostic is the same; what you do with it is the practice.

Apply as a coach

Approved practitioners can view reports for any couple who invites them, and get free access to the assessment for their own relationship.

Apply now

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